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A Safe Place Within
By
Charles Wm. Skillas,
Ph.D., DD, BCH, FNGH, CI
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Until
I get my clients cleared and reprogrammed so that
they do not continue to suffer the problems that they've
had and for which they've come to see me, I usually
create for them a tool that helps them handle the
difficulties in their life. This tool is a safe place
within themselves that they can take themselves to
whenever the stresses of life begin to plague them.
In this safe place, once created, my client can experience
a feeling of profound safety, peace, tranquility and
serenity. I build this safe place so that it has within
it, in addition to safety and relaxation, freedom
from all the cares and responsibilities of life. Nothing
bad, disquieting or disconcerting can reach you in
this safe place. Here, everything is just fine and
you are completely OK without a care or fear in the
world.
I produce the safe place
by pyramiding deep relaxation inductions along with
creative visualization of a place in nature that is
consistent with the client's own sense of peace and
safety. For instance, I would not create a safe place
by an ocean for someone who is afraid of water, so
I get an idea of what is satisfying to the client
by talking to him before proceeding. It is important
to get the client into a very deeply relaxed state
before the visual experience through progressive relaxation
techniques.
Since the subconscious mind is a
bio-computer, it is capable of exercising subroutines
and I anchor the safe place to some convenient trigger
point on the client's body using NLP technology. When
the trigger is set, all the client has to do to activate
it is touch the trigger point where the subroutine
is anchored and his subconscious computer will take
him to the images and feelings he experienced during
the safe place's creation by exercising the anchored
subroutine through the trigger point. Once the safe
place is created, the client must exercise it several
times each day for about a month in order for the
subroutine to be permanently imbedded on the subconscious
computer's hard drive. Once it is set by repetition,
the client will own the safe place for life.
I first used the idea
of a safe place about twelve years ago to help some
government officials who all had intense stage fright
and who had to give briefings on their work to their
bosses in Washington, DC. There were seven of these
officials and two of them stuttered badly when under
stress, which public speaking causes. Incidentally,
these gentlemen were not alone in their fear as it
is a proven fact that fear of public speaking is rated
worse than the fear of death. These officials came
to me in a group for help with their fears.
Usually, I would look
for the negative forcing functions within their subconscious
that made them so fearful of public speaking and release
the energy that supported the fear program in their
subconscious computer. However, they were not interested
in going through the necessary therapy to do this
and wanted to know if I could do something simple
for them to relieve all of them of their fear at the
same time. I came up with the idea of the safe place
configured for their special need and suggested that
we try it and they agreed.
I put all of them into
a very deep group trance, configured the safe place
and installed the anchor- trigger in an innocuous
place so they could actuate it without anyone noticing
what they were doing. I then brought them out of hypnosis
and instructed them to use the trigger often to imbed
it into their subconscious. They did as I asked and
they later reported to me that it worked for all of
them and the two stutterers stopped stuttering when
they used the anchor-trigger. When getting ready to
go on stage, they would just touch the anchor-trigger
and the feelings and images of the safe place would
flood them and all fear left them. They were relaxed
and at ease and did wonderfully in their public speaking
endeavors. The stutterers said that as soon as they
felt the need to stutter coming upon them, they would
actuate the anchor-trigger and the stuttering would
immediately stop. They were all very happy indeed.
Since then I provide
my students and clients with this safe place and they
all find it beneficial in relieving stress of any
kind, including not only fear, but sadness, guilt,
shame anger and other stressful emotions. It is a
great tranquilizer and has no negative side effects.
The safe place does not get rid of the source energy
of the fear buried in the subconscious, but it helps
the sufferer just as medicine does and temporarily
relieves the miserable symptoms.
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