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To
Be Alone… It’s Okay!
By Charles
Wm. Skillas, Ph.D., DD, BCH, FNGH, CI
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Some
men and many women come to me complaining of being
depressed and lonely as their lives are empty, because
they have no “significant other” to share
it with. They believe their happiness depends on someone
else sharing their lives and if only this “wonderful”
someone was with them, they would be “fulfilled
and happy”.
Of course, this is not
true. Our happiness never depends on others. This dependency
feeling reflects our security needs. Within the need
for security is the fear of poverty, of old age, of
ill health, of criticism, and the fear of death. So,
loneliness depression is really related to security.
In hypnosis we can strengthen the ego by reprogramming
the subconscious, but it doesn’t work well unless
the person is clear of all Negative Forcing Functions
(Subconscious Negative Energy Sources) because the old
dependency programs are constantly energized by the
Sources and new independence programs are overridden.
I recently had a case
involving a very depressed young woman of 40 who wanted
to die because she couldn’t find a man to share
her life. I released the Negative Sources in her including
entities, present and past life issues, and internal
conflicts and then tried ego strength reprogramming,
with some success. She greatly improved on the issues
stemming from her released Negative Sources, but she
was still unhappy being alone.
Because she was now
clear, I was able to get her High Self to provide visions
of previous lifetimes that affected her loneliness issue.
In one past life, she lived happily in Mediterranean
Crete. Her father married her off to a Northern Lord,
requiring her to move to a cold country where the people
were unfriendly and her husband mostly ignored her.
She was unhappy. After he died, she moved back to beautiful
Crete and was happy for the rest of her life living
among friendly people, developing many friends and engaging
in intellectual stimulation and work. In a 2nd past
life, she was the daughter of a tyrant who treated both
she and her mother with contempt and cruelty. She finally
married to get away from her father, only to find her
husband was like him. He finally died and she moved
to a pleasant climate with friendly people and developed
relationships and work, which made her happy.
These wise visions provided
by her High Self clicked within causing her to understand
that just being married didn’t bring happiness…
actually, here it caused unhappiness. Her happiness
came by taking charge of her life, living where she
liked and engaging in satisfying relationships and work.
This deep perception changed her life and she is now
happy with just herself.
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